I was the 8th and youngest child born to a US Army Major General and a 'traditional', southern belle, stay-at-home-mom. They were conservative, right-wing, and Catholic, and from a very young age I knew I was very, very different. I was one of only two girls in the family and was a little activist from early on. I was sensitive and different and in my teens, rebellious and moody. I knew I wanted to work with people and eventually wound up in Boston to get my MSW. I worked in nonprofit for 15 years and burned out, and blessedly found the Coaches Training Institute in 2008. Since then, I have worked as a personal and executive coach, psychotherapist, group leader, consultant, and several years ago I was chosen to lead for CTI. I love my work—it is creative, energizing, fun, and intimate. I love helping people tap into greater self-compassion, and to live fuller, more meaningful lives.Read More
I want to be enough. You know, pretty enough, good enough, etc.. When I was little I was sensitive. My parents looked at that as a flaw or as a weakness. As an adult I have faced a domestic abuse situation, and the stigma and shame that came along with it. I have done a lot of soul searching through counseling, reading, conferences, and meditation. I feel stronger and wiser....Read More
When Alyssa arrived to her REVEAL shoot she was very calm, but we knew it had not been an easy morning because she had called letting us know that circumstances out of her control had kept her from arriving earlier. I loved her attitude immediately, because she said out loud the same thing I was thinking moments after walking through the door. That everything that happened was perfect and exactly what she'd needed to be revealed before her shoot even began.Read More
The objectification of women in the media and an unattainable level of beauty. How this ‘desirable beauty’ can destroy the self-worth of many young girls and women. Finding my voice and using it without the fear of judgment...Read More
The biggest challenges that I’ve faced as a woman are somewhat intertwined:
Learning to trust myself and my intuition – Ignoring “the inner voice” never ends well!
Creating harmony between the masculine and feminine energies of life – I spent the first 13 years of my career in highly masculine energy, overcorrected to feminine energy while recapturing it, and now finding the middle ground is still an ongoing journey. Embracing my full magnificence and power – Learning to embrace what is unique and amazing about me has been a process, for sure. It has meant learning to let go of what other people think of me, owning my brilliance (both life experience and intuitive wisdom), and surrendering and letting go....
The only things I know for certain are: I’m a child of God, a daughter and a wife, and I’m the possibility of anything I determine to be. I just ordered a print for my new office space with the quote: “She believed she could, so she did.” Right now for me, that’s the essence of who any of us is… we are whoever we believe we can be, and whoever we believe we are....
I don’t know if these are challenges I would have faced if I wasn’t a woman, but one of the biggest challenges that I have faced is finding my voice and the courage to use it. Another challenge has been to allow myself to truly be seen and heard and taken seriously by those around me, and to really create and own my story and be unapologetic about it. These might be universal “human” challenges, but perhaps they are tied to my gender..Read More
Owning my voice and my power in the present moment, particularly in my role as mother. Much of my life was spent recycling the past, or worrying about the future, causing me to miss some extraordinary gifts in the present moment. This pattern of disharmony within had a ripple effect on myself and my family, causing me to be disconnected from both. The gift of this experience is that the pain and isolation within the role became the doorway into deeper reflection, spiritual growth, and connection. It was actually the catalyst to healing family relationships and discovering my calling..Read More
As a woman… let’s see. . . it starts when I was a girl. I was pretty. So any attention I received was around how I looked. Although I didn't put much value into that myself because I felt uncomfortable with the oogling attention on my appearance. Although others may believe it a blessing, it was very distracting for the rest of my personhood, like distractions from actually communicating. I was nurtured and loved and bullied into silence. As long as I was silent, I was worthy of being in the presence of others. Just be quiet and look pretty. ...Read More
Working full-time and juggling two part-time jobs, plus three boys in sports – it has been tough at times to see straight. I’ve accepted that my house will normally not be clean and we may eat a lot of pizza. I understand that one day my house will be beautifully clean and too quiet.
Years ago in a job in RI and again in 2012, I witnessed women turning against other women in very ugly ways. It was disturbing to see how women can take their own insecurities or ego issues and completely try to annihilate another woman. ...Read More
Carrying childhood shame into my adult life. I had to learn how to keep a shame-filled experience from defining me and busting through the myth that my shame meant I was unworthy of love and acceptance. All of us carry wounds… somehow I finally understood that the only way out of the pain was to go into its fire and dance with it. The fires raw edged smoke that threatened to swallow me whole was just an illusion, created from my own self loathing and fear. That inner dialog that continued to drive my life’s experience and how I defined myself had to go. It went something like this, “I am too needy, too much, too sensitive, too wounded, too hungry, too desperate...there will never be enough of me to love, or for that matter too much of me to love....Read More
I have learned the hard way that a “story” that disempowers you is your enemy. It makes you constantly sad and you are the only one who can change the way you feel about something and that there is only one solution...you have to divorce your “story”!
It's like a relationship that doesn't serve you. You are staying in it, and you know it is beating you down. You have to draw the line and stop telling the same story because the more you talk about it, the more it's creating your reality and hurting you.
My strategy on how to overcome my feelings of sadness? I needed the right mindset to motivate me and that would help me to move forward. I had to stop creating the thoughts that were disempowering me, and that the loss of my 17 year marriage meant that I'd have to dash my idea of being 80 years old sitting on a rocking chair next to my husband watching the sunset...Read More
One of the biggest challenges that I have faced as a woman is not feeling understood. I am a heart-centered, sensitive person and process things in my life through emotion and feeling. Sometimes this gets perceived as “weakness” when I am simply just trying to make sense out of something. Also, I live alone; I am a full-time graduate student and travel quite a bit for work. It can get really tough sometimes balancing all of that.Read More
I am a “Renaissance Soul” with many interests, passions, and vocations. At 58 years old, I am in the best physical, emotional, and spiritual condition of my life. My three adult children are reaching for magnificent lives of their own now. Katie, my oldest daughter, turned 26 this month. She is an accountant, and engaged to be married in June 2014. Lindsey, nearly 21, is a junior at Dickinson College (PA) studying International Business. Last week I felt her glide through my loving embrace and board a plane for Bologna, Italy, where she will study this semester. My baby, Matthew, 19, is a freshman at Syracuse University, also majoring in Business.Read More
I’ve faced two great challenges. The first was letting go of the idea that I would grow up and “live happily ever after” with a house, and a white picket fence, and a yard full of children. The second was coming to terms with my relationship to my mother. For so long, I felt that I was betraying her, by not wanting to be like her.Read More
Becoming a parent has been the most challenging, and at the same time, rewarding experience for me. Switching my role from Roo to Mom was, and continues to be, a difficult transition for me. I never anticipated the isolation that I would feel in motherhood. At the same time, I have made some of my best friendships since becoming a mom and each and every mom that I talk to regularly is a light in my life....Read More
My biggest challenge has been believing in myself and my own value. I am still trying to grasp that what I contribute is valuable and important and worth doing. I'm trying to put self-doubt in the right place, as the voice to challenge me and drive me toward growth, to inspire the self-compassionate conversation that I need to have every day...Read More
I’ve lived my life backwards with the idea that you can still smell the roses if you are running with them in your hands. An acquaintance once said, “I’m going to work really hard and retire early at 40, so that I can spend the rest of my life traveling and experiencing everything.” I remember thinking—That plan won’t work for me. There is another way. I didn’t have any money to travel, but I could earn some to get to other locations and then work in those locations. So, I worked three jobs to earn enough money to get on my first plane flight the summer before my junior year in college—to Tokyo—and I kept going...Read More
I’m a mom who appreciates the little things in life. I’ve been happily married to my high school sweetheart for 16 years and we have two great kids. I’m a native Texan with roots in both Texas and Rhode Island. Although I moved around a lot through the years, I have maintained some amazing friendships. (Friendships with women who make me laugh so hard, I have to make sure I wear a mini-pad when we get together!) As far as my career, I’m a public relations consultant, mommy blogger and author.Read More