A Fully Permission-ed Life

I coach people who are wanting to live a FPL, “Fully Permission-ed Life” in expression, relationship, creativity, career, and BEING!

This is a messy business to say the least.  But, not as messy as when I was a child, always trying to please everyone (8 siblings, 2 sets of parents) on top of being a chronic apologizer.  It was exhausting to be on high alert trying to meet everyone where they were, and ignoring my inner soul voice. Today, I no longer deny my Self a "FPL", except for when I do.

These last several days have been challenging my “FPL”.  It’s humbling, and it is kicking my ass.

How do I give my Self full permission when I am searching for a good enough excuse, a concrete explanation, or a defense around the reason for not being able to show up.  I find myself “sorry-ing” my kids, business partners, and friends. Where is my permission without the excuses, guilt, the should’s, the shame, and the stress?

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I have to dig a little deeper, and wrestle with what I know to be true. I need to notice when I’m defending my life, instead of living from my personal truth, and stop allowing others to define me. Yup, it’s a very messy inside job. I have to dig deep into the sludge of should’s and defensive living, as I rummage around my soul for the well buried truth, weeding out the excuses, yeah but’s, and shame.  Digging deeper still, through the hot mess of personal with-holding, to finally reach the decaying Fully Permission-ed Self.  There She is, hiding in a tight corner of my Being. I recognize the faint flicker, reminding me of the fire fly that caught my sleepy eyes just last night, when I looked out my bathroom window.  This is when I heard my soul voice whisper, “Wake the fuck up, Girl!” I feel that something give, and my FPL is ignited, and my truth sayer is choosing, “NO not today."  I breathe in my reckoning; the punishing banter that delivered my own damn truth. It isn’t someone else’s truth, it is all mine.  I get to be exhausted, spent, confused, unhappy, nitty, and beaten down by the world for a few days.

She’s back, a Fully Permission-ed Glorious Mess! The magic that arrived at the end of this day's reckoning was a note I received in the mail from my niece, and it read, "darling, a beautiful thing is never perfect."

 

Revealing Worthwhile Reads & Things to Do: Weekly Roundup

I'm really enjoying the activated feminine voice rising into & over the drudgery of the same old - same old. 
I'm seeing women everywhere, having conversations that matter and using their voices to break the silence. The reoccurring theme's this week : Self-care & self-worth and the intersection of revealing & healing. 

The Unforgiving Minute : By Laurie Penny.

Men, get ready to be uncomfortable for a while. While forgiveness may come one day, it won’t be soon.

Sex, however, is not the problem. Sexism is the problem, as is the fact that a great many men seem unable to tell the difference. It is maddening, the way those of us who complain about abuse are accused of trying to shut down sex and sexuality, as if we’d ever been allowed to be active sexual participants, as if abuse and the fear of abuse hadn’t made pleasurable sex all but impossible for so many of us.

 

Allowing #MeToo to go Viral is the Biggest Mistake the Establishment Ever Made: By Caitlin Johnstone.

Human civilization is made of rape. For millennia, all over the world, women have been commodified and kept as property for the purpose of receiving male reproductive fluids and raising their progeny, regardless of our will. During this time we were kept at home while men invented religion, money, economics, war, government, hierarchy, class, culture, rules, laws and traditions, including the laws of the marital bed. Civilization has been arranged so that each man receives a woman to own, with whom he may have sex whenever he wishes, between building, fighting, destroying and conquering in accordance with the will of whatever ruler happened to be running the show at the time.

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This is What Self-Care Really Means: Because it's not all Salt Baths and Chocolate Cake. 

True self-care is not salt baths and chocolate cake, it is making the choice to not build a life you don’t need to regularly escape from.
And that often takes doing the thing you least want to do.

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Self-Care: It Begins with You Online Workshop: Check out Beth McKay's Zoom Workshop & Reveal:

  • A deep sense of what self care means to you
  • A self care practice
  • A sacred connection with like minded women
  • Knowing when you’re separated from yourself and how to recover
  • Being able to distinguish the difference between self care & self indulgence
  • Learning to recognize those incessant voices and how to change the internal conversation

 

 

 

Self-Care Workshop 

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Behind the Scenes at TRP: Choosing for the BIG REVEAL

Behind the Scenes at TRP: Choosing for the BIG REVEAL

Our REVEAL photoshoots can sometimes yield 600 + images.  Sometimes it's a daunting process to narrow to 16-20 shots that accurately reflect the many moments, expressions, and appearances revealed to us that day:

The one when she realizes it's safe to come out. 
The one when she emerges.
The one when she is still,  just fanning her beautiful wings.
The one when she is tentative.
The one when she is animated.
The one when she takes flight. 

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Shifting Your Lens : Meet Kim Fuller

Shifting Your Lens : Meet Kim Fuller

Last year she officially published her book FINDING about her adopted son Keydell as her greatest spiritual teacher. Shortly after it's publication, she was invited to consider a TED talk based on her passion for new perspectives. She went through TEDx's rigorous submission process, deigned and practiced her talk until she got it right, and then  gave one of the most moving and memorable TEDx talks I've ever seen to a packed auditorium and was rewarded with a unanimous and thunderous standing ovation. I thought my heart would burst. 

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It's about HER.

It's about HER.

It's about HER making HER image as a vessel of discovery and capturing the embodied version of HER spirit in a tangible way so that the lies all fall away and what's left to witness is the blinding beauty-mark of HER presence in the world. 

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