The Stories We Live By

From the time we are born until the time we cross over we begin to construct our personal narrative. Between these two points a multitude of stories are created. Some are memorable, and so we tell them over and over again and others are just remnants of our day to day lives.

Ben Okri, the Nigerian poet and novelist, says

“The fact of storytelling hints at a fundamental human unease, hints at human imperfection. Where there is perfection there is no story to tell.” 

In other words, the imperfect human story helps us feel less alone and has the power to cure a number of ailments stemming from unresolved pain, isolation, and fear. 

Story telling has the power to connect, inform and inspire us.
It also has the power to separate, isolate and refract us.

Story telling at it’s best, gives us insight into the transformative and ascending powers of the human spirit. At their worst, they distort our perceptions of one another, undermine our capacity for greatness, and keep us small and voiceless.

Stories are everywhere. In the media, in the gossip we choose to share with our “friends”, in the books we keep on our shelves at home, and in the memories of our hearts where we’ve been imprinted upon. Sometimes we are not aware of how our stories were collected or why these particular stories took on such significance in our lives.

At any given time, we are narrating a story within ourselves or consuming a story outside of ourselves. We use our own interpretations to make meaning and substance of our lives.

Regardless of if we are aware of our tendency to collect and tell stories, it’s the unconscious or unrevealed stories we live by that can dictate much of how we live our day to day lives, present ourselves to the outside world, and hold unhelpful beliefs about our capability, character, and potential.

How we interpret stories and the meaning we give them can alter how we behave, love, parent, and lead.

Would you be curious to know how how much more joy and peace you could experience by revealing the stories lingering below the surface of your awareness?

Would you enjoy exploring new life tools for discernment with the potential for extreme belly laughter with a like-minded group of women who want to reveal more?

I hope you’ll consider joining us!

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Join The Revelation Project this October, as we explore the fascinating world of storytelling, interpretation, and the difference between personal truth and the stories we tell that no longer serve us. Enjoy a weekend designed to bring a new lens to the life you perceive and that reveals the inner essence of your one true voice and the story you want to be living.

Learn how to expose the lies, bust the myths, and re-author a story for a life that’s worth living.

It’s time we re-imagine a world where we can celebrate the heroine within us, and create an adventure filled with inspiration, purpose and possibility.

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You Start Dying Slowly

Last year, was my year of YES. 

I was intentional about it because I'd gotten to the point where I felt like I was slowly dying inside.
I mean it, I had become so bored with the same old, same old and I was restless for something different but had no idea where to begin to make changes. The only thing I did know was that I had to start saying "YES" when opportunities crossed my path, even to things that were outside my comfort zone.  

Being intentional has it's perks because magically, new opportunities did begin to appear .. except Instead of saying YES, I would say "maybe".. at least I was getting closer?

Because, I hadn't quite let go of my reasons...

It's too expensive to do anything big, I need to save for college! 
I can't leave the kids.. 

My husband will miss me..
It's too much disruption.
Who will let the dogs out 3 times a day? 


and yet the real reasons were:

I was worried I was selfish to want more. 
I was afraid to fail at doing something adventurous.
I was afraid of wasting time and money on something that I said yes to.
Doing something "different" felt too far out of my comfort zone.
Doing something big while also being alone.. how can that be fun? 
What if I disrupt my relationship? 
and then there was this whisper that would say : BUT what if???
 
What if being selfish is a good thing? 
What if you don't fail? 
What if you have wild success and intense fun at doing something adventurous? 
What if going somewhere or doing something different is exactly what you need? 
What if doing new things enhances your relationship vs. disrupts it? 
What if disruption is exactly what it's all about? 

Disruption. 

It seemed to make sense that I would need to look at disruption in a whole new way. Maybe even as a magical ally that could be my ticket into positive change. I mean, lets be honest, what was I really disrupting? 

The status quo.
The routine.
The monotony. 
The same old same old.
The comfort zone. 

Ahhh... there it was.  The curse of comfort.  My comfort zone kept me from wanting to change because deep down, I was scared of the unknown.  I think that the longer I lived inside of my predictable and routine life, the less confident I became about my capacity to grow and shift again. However, I was also noticing that comfort itself had become wildly uncomfortable, and I was restless for more. 

Being content does not evoke change.

Being restless does.

Fast forward and I'm in the habit of continually adding things to my calendar that I look forward to, and I'm pleasantly surprised by the results of saying YES, and finding new things to do that inspire me. It's taken some adjusting for my family, but everyone is the better for it. I find that by taking time for me, everyone wins. 

I've got energy and a sense of purpose.  
I laugh more and think differently.
My relationships are more alive. 
My income has grown. 

Which brings me to this point:

It's important to invest in ourselves in a way that gives us a return on investment.  I remember that one of the first things I said yes to was more expensive than I was used to spending on myself, until I realized that I wasn't spending; I was investing.  By investing in myself, I've been rewarded over and over and I think it's because I actively have more confidence, energy, and inspiration than I did before and so people hire me more often and I'm more clear about good opportunities that come my way.  

I see now that women withhold from themselves all the time. They short change themselves nurturing everyone except themselves.  Remember that tale by Shel Silverstein, The Giving Tree?  

I bet you thought that was a beautiful story. All I know is that she gave and gave and gave that boy everything, and in the end, all she had left was a stump. 

All she had left was a stump. 

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In one year, my life has become filled with joy and excitement.  I've done so many things this year that I never would have imagined and it started with that first BIG "YES". 

You know the saying : 

“And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.” -  Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist

This has been my reality. I do believe that when we put our best foot forward and take a risk toward become who we are meant to be,  that we create an energy thats fueled with possibility and where literally anything can happen. 

So, when is the last time you did something for yourself that made you feel alive inside? 

When is the last time you said "YES" to something that will grow you? 

Here's a poem that spoke to me right around my YES time last year: 

You start dying slowly
if you do not travel,
if you do not read,
If you do not listen to the sounds of life,
If you do not appreciate yourself.
You start dying slowly
When you kill your self-esteem;
When you do not let others help you.
You start dying slowly
If you become a slave of your habits,
Walking everyday on the same paths…
If you do not change your routine,
If you do not wear different colours
Or you do not speak to those you don’t know.
You start dying slowly
If you avoid to feel passion
And their turbulent emotions;
Those which make your eyes glisten
And your heart beat fast.
You start dying slowly
If you do not change your life when you are not satisfied with your job, or with your love,
If you do not risk what is safe for the uncertain,
If you do not go after a dream,
If you do not allow yourself,
At least once in your lifetime,
To run away from sensible advice…
Pablo Neruda

If you are not sure where to start; start here: 

Say "YES" to being with a wonderful group of women in Kennebunk Maine at the end of April for a weekend of disruption.  Take time for you by saying "YES" right now, and stop being so damn sensible.  Ask your friends for help with pets or with the children and tell you husband you know that he's wildly capable of handling a weekend without you.  Now whip out that credit card to claim your space. 

It's just that easy.